by PACE in Category: For The Adults



     It has increasingly become accepted that emotional intelligence is an important factor in our success and happiness, not only at work, but in our relationships and all areas of our lives.

    So what sets emotionally intelligent people apart? Here are seven habits that people with high EI have:




    While not ignoring the bad news, emotionally intelligent people have made a conscious decision to not spend a lot of time and energy focusing on problems. Rather, they look at what is positive in a situation and look for solutions to a problem. These people focus on what they are able to do and that which is within their control.



    People with a lot of emotional intelligence don’t spend a lot of time listening to complainers and tend to avoid negative people. They are aware negative people are an energy drain and are not willing to let others exhaust their vitality. Because they always look for solutions and the positive in situations, negative people quickly learn to avoid positive people as misery loves company.

    Emotionally intelligent people spend time with others that are positive and look upon the bright side of life. You can spot these folks as they tend to smile and laugh a great deal and attract other positive people. Their warmth, openness, and caring attitude leads others look upon them as more trustworthy.



    Although their friendly, open nature may make them appear as pushovers to some, people with high EI are able to set boundaries and assert themselves when needed. They demonstrate politeness and consideration but stay firm at the same time.

    They do not make needless enemies. Their response to situations, in which there may be conflict, is measured, not inflated, and managed appropriately to the situation. They think before speaking and give themselves time to calm down if their emotions appear to become overwhelming. High EI people guard their time and commitments and know when they need to say no.



    People with high EI are too busy thinking of possibilities in the future to spend a lot of time dwelling upon things that didn’t work out in the past. They take the learning from their past failures and apply it to their actions in the future. They never see failure as permanent or a personal reflection of themselves.



    Whether it is in their workplace, at home, or with friends, high EI people know what makes them happy and look for opportunities to expand the enjoyment. They receive pleasure and satisfaction from seeing others happy and fulfilled, and do whatever they can to brighten someone else’s day.



    While these enlightened people are good at moving on from the past when things didn’t work out as expected, they are also able to move on from conflicts involved with others. High EI folks don’t hold on to anger over how others have treated them, rather use the incident to create awareness of how to not let it happen again. “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me,” is their motto. While they move on and forgive, they don’t forget and are unlikely to be taken advantage of again in the same set of circumstances.



    Highly emotionally intelligent people are lifelong learners, constantly growing, evolving, open to new ideas, and always willing to learn from others. Being critical thinkers, they are open to changing their minds if someone presents an idea that is a better fit. While they are open to ideas from others, and continuously gathering new information, they ultimately trust themselves and their own judgment to make the best decision for themselves.

    [Image: Flickr user André Solnik]

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  2. Making Healthy Food Choices in Your Center

    by PACE in Category: At Your Center/School

    This is from: Preventing Childhood Obesity
    in Early Care and Education Programs
    Second Edition
    Selected Standards from
    Caring for Our Children: National Health and Safety Performance Standards, 3rd edition


    Categories of Foods

    STANDARD: Children in care should be offered items of food from the following categories:
    Making Healthy Food Choices*
    Food Groups USDA† CFOC Guidelines for Young Children
    Fruits All fresh, frozen, canned, dried
    fruits, and fruit juices:
    • Eat a variety, especially whole fruits
    • Whole fruit, mashed or pureed, for infants seven months up to one year of age
    • No juice before twelve months of age
    • 4 to 6 oz juice /day for one- to six-year-olds
    • 8 to 12 oz juice/day for seven- to twelve-year-olds
    Vegetables Dark green, red, and orange;
    beans and peas (legumes);
    starchy vegetables; other
    • Dark green, red, orange, deep yellow vegetables
    • Other vegetables, including starchy ones like potatoes
    • Other root vegetables, such as viandas
    • Dried peas and beans (legumes)
    Grains Whole grains and enriched
    • Whole and enriched grains, breads, cereals, crackers, pasta, and rice
    Protein Foods Seafood, meat, poultry, eggs,
    nuts, seeds, and soy products
    • Fish, chicken, lean meat, eggs
    • Nuts and seeds (if appropriate)
    • Avoid fried fish, meat, and chicken
    Dairy Milk • Human milk, infant formula for infants at least up to one year of age:
    • Whole milk for children ages on up to two years of age or reduced fat (2%)
    milk for those at risk for obesity or hypercholesterolemia
    • 1% or skim milk for children two years of age and older
    • Other milks such as soy when recommended
    • Other milk equivalent products such as yogurt and cottage cheese (low-fat
    for children two years of age and older)
    Oils Oils, soft margarines, includes
    vegetable, nut, and fish oils
    and soft vegetable oil table
    spreads that have no trans fats:
    • Choose monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats (olive oil, safflower oil)
    • Soft margarines
    • Avoid trans fats, saturated fats and fried foods
    Solid Fats
    and Added
    Limit calories (% of calories) of
    these food groups
    • Avoid concentrated sweets such as candy, sodas, sweetened drinks, fruit
    nectars, and flavored milk
    • Limit salty foods such as chips and pretzels
    * All foods are assumed to be in nutrient-dense forms, lean or low-fat and prepared without added fats, sugars, or salt. Solid fats and added sugars
    may be included up to the daily maximum limit identified in the Dietary Guidelines for Americans, 2010.

    Recommends: Find your balance between food and physical activity.



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    General’s vision for a healthy and fit nation. Rockville, MD: U.S. DHHS.
    OSG. http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/library/obesityvision/

    U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, U.S. Department
    of Agriculture. 2011. Dietary guidelines for Americans, 2010. 7th ed.
    Washington, DC: U.S. Government Printing Office. http://www.health.
    U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office of Disease
    Prevention and Health Promotion. 2008. 2008 physical activity guidelines
    for Americans. Rockville, MD: U.S. Government Printing Office. http://www.
    Story, M., K. Holt, D. Sofka, eds. 2002. Bright futures in practice: Nutrition.
    2nd ed. Arlington, VA: National Center for Education in Maternal and
    Child Health. http://www.brightfutures.org/nutrition/pdf/frnt_mttr.pdf.
    U.S. Department of Agriculture. 2011. MyPlate. http://www.

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    by PACE in Category: At Your Center/School,For The Adults,Uncategorized

    This has been effective since  3/1/2013


    This is from the National Resource Center for Health and Safety in Child Care and Early Education:

    For those of you who use a diluted bleach solution as a sanitizing and disinfecting product in your early care and education programs, the concentration of bleach solutions sold in stores has changed in many areas of the country. The new bleach solution available in many stores is now 8.25% sodium hypochlorite solution (higher than the formerly available bleach solution of 5.25%-6%). Several companies have communicated to us that they have discontinued manufacturing the 5.25%-6% sodium hypochlorite bleach solution and it will no longer be available at many stores.The 8.25% solution is being produced by both brand name companies as well as companies that produce generic products. Many of these products are now EPA-registered products as well.

    The NRC has been working with national experts and has determined that because of the variety of products available, it is no longer possible to provide a generic bleach recipe for sanitizing and disinfecting in early care and education programs. In addition, if you are using an EPA-registered product you should not be using a generic recipe, but should be following label instructions for useAppendix J of Caring for Our Children, 3rd ed. has been revised to reflect these changes.

    The NRC recommendation is:

    Use EPA-registered products for sanitizing and disinfecting.


    • Follow the manufacturer’s instructions for diluting the EPA-registered product for sanitizing or disinfecting, as well as for the contact time. (Instructions on how to determine this for the EPA-registered product you are using can be found here) These instructions are also part of the revised Appendix J.
    • If you are not using an EPA-registered bleach product at this time, we recommend you contact your state and/or local health department for assistance in creating the safe dilutions for the bleach products you are using to sanitize and/or disinfect surfaces in your early care and education environment.


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  4. Multicultural Meal Plan: Favorite Soups From Around the World

    by PACE in Category: At Your Center/School,Everyday,For The Adults

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    Years ago, I have taken my family and embarked on our journey of virtually travelling around the world, exploring a new country, culture, or region each year. This virtual travel includes celebrating festivals, listening to traditional music, doing various crafts, and most tangibly: cooking and eating traditional and popular dishes. Just as these explorations have left a mark on our family’s traditions, various dishes have continued to make their way to our dinner table. Many of these are soup recipes.

    Though spring is only days away, we are still enjoying comforting soups on most days to keep the cold at bay. Some of these soups are traditional recipes, while others are inspired by the dominant flavors of a cuisine. All are delicious and warming.


    Wonton Soup

    Wonton Soup This classic Chinese soup is delicious, and can be very filling, depending on how many wontons you have in your bowl. Our whole family partakes in making the wontons, which gives us some fun, quality time together. Even with help, making wontons can be time consuming, so I’ve begun doubling the filling and therefore wontons, spacing them out on a tray, freezing them overnight, then placing all the wontons in a large ziplock (freezing them individually initially ensures the wontons don’t stick together). When we crave wonton soup, or for a quick dinner, I heat up the broth, and take as many wontons as I’d like from our frozen stock (usually 5 per person) and add them to the broth.


    Irish Coddle

    Irish Coddle Traditionally more of a stew, we like it with so much added broth, it comes close to being a soup. Layers of potato, sausages, carrots and onions braise for at least three hours in beef broth. Delicious, comforting, and especially good with Irish soda bread, fresh from the oven – bread easy enough for kids to make.


    Classic French Onion Soup There is something so soothing about hot, french onion soup, topped with cheese laden bread. There are many recipes for this soup, that differ in complexity, and the one we use is fairly simple. You just need to give the onions time to caramelize. I use whatever red wine I have on hand, and because I don’t have special french onion soup bowls, we put slices of baguette covered in cheese in the oven, which are placed over the soup after its been ladled in a bowl. My eldest daughter doesn’t eat onions, but still enjoys the broth with many slices of french bread :)


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    Mexican Chicken Soup This is a healthy, tasty soup inspired by Mexican flavors with cumin, cilantro, tomatoes and avocado. It’s a great use of leftover chicken, and I usually use a can of diced tomatoes with herbs (rather than fresh the fresh tomatoes the recipe calls for). Though our youngest doesn’t enjoy sweet potatoes she also loves this soup, which makes it a great way to include this healthy vegetable. The girls especially appreciate the toasted tortilla strips (you can use corn or wheat), and use lots of cheese. We put a plate out with various toppings (tortilla strips, shredded cheese, diced avocado, sliced green onions, cilantro and hot sauce) and everyone adds their favorites.


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    Avgolemono Soup This classic Greek soup is refreshing and delicious, featuring the lemon flavor Greek cuisine loves. It is made with chicken stock, a starch (rice or orzo pasta), eggs, lemon and can include shredded chicken to make it extra filling. We were all frankly surprised at how much we enjoyed this soup (yellow soup with lemons?), and it has become a family favorite.


    Mulligatawny Soup Another great way to use leftover chicken, this soup is flavorful with curry and light and creamy from the coconut milk. You can also make it vegetarian by replacing the chicken with red lentils, and using vegetable stock. Those of us who appreciate spice sprinkle extra cayenne pepper in our own soup bowls. This soup is great enjoyed with warm Naan bread.

    West Africa

    sweet potato and peanut soup

    Our latest soup discovery, Sweet Potato & Peanut soup,  is influenced by West African flavors of tomato and peanuts. It turned out to be more “inspired” than authentic, but so delicious, especially for the adults, that we are looking forward to making it again, and again. I recommend tasting it as it’s being made, starting with a small amount of peanut butter and adjusting it to taste. We are going to be making it as a vegetarian dish the next time my mother comes over for supper.


    Fricot au poulet

    And from our home country, Fricot au Poulet is a classic French Canadian soup which is essentially a delicious chicken soup with dumplings. This is one of those recipes that transports my husband back to his childhood, and we hope, will do the same for our girls.

    Multicultural Meal Plan Mondays on Multicultural Kid Blogs

    You can also read other multicultural meal plans in this series.

    You can also follow our Multicultural Cooking board on Pinterest

    Multicultural Kid BloggerMarie-Claude is the parent of two incredible girls. Over the years, they have immersed themselves virtually in various cultures. This year they have been exploring the cultures of West Africa, which is being chronicled on her blog atmariespastiche.blogspot.com.

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  5. 7 Things The Most Interesting People All Have In Common

    by PACE in Category: For The Adults

    What’s the best way to use all this information to be more interesting?


    1) First, Don’t Be Boring

    Sometimes the best offense is a good defense. Look at it like the Hippocratic Oath of conversations: Do no harm.

    We’re all terrible at realizing when we bore others because, well, we all think we’re just fascinating.

    The #1 tip for never boring anyone comes from Scott AdamsBe brief, be positive.

    If you’re always to the point and stay upbeat, it’s extremely hard for anyone to accuse you of being poor company.

    But sometimes you do need to speak a little longer to make sure things don’t get stilted.

    The Art of Civilized Conversation offers another good tip: Is anyone asking you questions about what you’re saying?

    If not, maybe it’s time to end the story or ask the other person a question.

    (More rapport building techniques are here.)


    2) The Most Captivating People Are Often Good Listeners

    Impressing people can be great but it can also devolve into status jockeying, one-upmanship and envy.

    People love to talk about themselves and there are a dearth of good listeners.

    Let the other person talk. It gives their brain as much pleasure as food or money:

    Talking about ourselves—whether in a personal conversation or through social media sites like Facebook and Twitter—triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money…

    You can make an excellent impression by saying amazingly little. Ironically, the people we like the most often say the least.

    (Learn how to listen like a hostage negotiator here.)


    3) Talk About The Other Person’s Interests

    This is straight from Dale Carnegie and if you’re not that socially adept, this is as straightforward as it gets.

    Why struggle to guess what most people might find generically interesting?

    Ask people what they’ve been up to or what their hobbies are. Then talk about that. You’re now 80% of the way there.

    If you know about the subject the similarity will bond you.

    If you don’t, ask them to explain and be a great listener as they talk about something they love.

    (More on the science behind Dale Carnegie’s classic here.)


    4) Have Three Good Stories

    Comedians don’t just talk about anything when they’re onstage. They have their act rehearsed.

    You don’t just trot into a job interview and say whatever’s on your mind.

    Always have three good stories on hand that reliably entertain, inform or engage.

    Another tip from Scott AdamsPeople are generally more interested in stories about people rather than things.

    Drama, gossip and reality TV are successful for a reason. We all find human behavior fascinating.

    On the other hand, most people don’t want to hear about the features on your new iPhone.

    (More on how to tell good stories here.)


    5) Don’t Forget Charisma

    It’s not all about the words. Some people are engaging but if what they said was transcribed, it would be unimpressive.

    When you’re speaking emotionally, the words only account for 7% of what get conveyed. Seven percent.

    Voice tone and body language are far more important.

    Via The Heart of Social Psychology: A Backstage View of a Passionate Science:

    One often quoted study (Mehrabian & Ferris, 1967) found that of all the information conveyed to another person when we say something that is emotional (not informational), only 7 percent is contained in the actual meaning of the words we use.

    Laugh. Smile. Be passionate. Gesture. Modulate your voice. Don’t just sweat the words.

    (Here’s how to be charismatic.)


    6) Be Somewhere Interesting

    Got a say in where you’ll be at, as with a date or meeting?

    Pick someplace stimulating. Context matters.

    In general, we’re lousy about realizing where our feelings are coming from.

    Research shows excitement from any source is often associated with the person you’re with — even if they’re not the cause of it.

    Why do people find musicians so captivating? The music and the crowd stimulates emotions — and we viscerally associate those with the band.

    MIT Behavioral Economist Dan Ariely recounts a relevant study he did:

    Why does this happen? Ariely thinks it might have something to do with “misattribution of emotions”: “Sometimes we have an emotion and we don’t know where it’s coming from, so we kind of stick it on something that seems sensible.” In other words, your strong feelings about the music might make you think you’re having strong feelings about the lead singer.

    (More on the power of context here.)


    7) And Most Importantly: Live An Interesting Life

    Remember the theme of Don QuixoteIf you want to be a knight, act like a knight.

    If you don’t read, watch and think about generic things, generic things are less likely to come out of your mouth.

    This doesn’t need to be expensive or difficult. Hang out more often with the most interesting people you know.

    The friends you spend time with dramatically affect your behavior —whether you like it or not.

    The Longevity Project, which studied over 1000 people from youth to death had this to say:

    The groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become. 

    In The Start-up of You, Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha talk about how the best way to improve particular qualities in yourself is to spend time with people who are already like that.

    The best and most reliable way to appear interesting is to live an interesting life.

    And to pursue that ends up being far more rewarding than merely making a good impression on others.

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  6. Summer time boredom? Prevent it before it starts…

    by PACE in Category: Child Behavior/Development,Everyday,For The Adults,Just For Fun


      It’s a few weeks into summer break…summer camps are full and the kids are getting bored already.  It’s time for a back-up plan.

    KaBoom!—it starts with a playground. — provides fantastic tips for parents and teachers to help cure kids’ summer time boredom…before it starts.

    Click here, for more information on “what to do with bored kids this summer” from KaBoom!—its starts with a playground.


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  7. Why Parents Should Take Time Out Instead of the Kids

    by PACE in Category: Child Behavior/Development,Everyday,For The Adults,Just For Fun,PACE




    Time outs are a common and accepted form of punishment today for parents and caregivers alike. As far as forms of punishment go, there are many compelling reasons to give your child a time out instead of resulting to other physical forms of punishment. Taking a time out can help your child calm down and be able to make better choices; however, the “time-out” is often overused and misused by parents.

    To read more on why parents should take time outs visit our friends at GoNannies.com or click here.

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  8. Dance to Relieve Stress

    by PACE in Category: At Your Center/School,Child Behavior/Development,Everyday,Just For Fun,PACE


    “Relaxation movements are not the only way to unwind the body.  Dancing does wonders.”  This is the observation of Alice Honig in her book, Little Kids, Big Worries.

    “Choose slow skating waltzes and other dancing music for toddlers to relax, twirling dreamily to slow tunes.  Some preschoolers love lively and stomping music.  They jump and leap as they dance to those strong beats.  Watch the children dance.  Tensions flow out of their bodies as they move to the music.”

     Interested in learning more? Visit Exchange to purchase this books and others regarding the health and well-being of children.


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  9. What Day is the Best Day to Advocate?

    by PACE in Category: Advocacy,At Your Center/School,Child Behavior/Development,Everyday,For The Adults,PACE,Uncategorized


    Since established in 1955, PACE continually strives to advance the profession of childhood education. California  has a diverse population and soci0-econminc composition which has allowed for the development of an equally diverse response to the early education needs of children.

    According to the most recent data compiled by California’s Resource and Referral Network (R&R Network) nearly 64% of California’s early care and education is provided by private licensed centers. PACE members, who represent this percentage, advocate for the continued professional development  of those who provide early learning opportunities for California’s children and the sustainability of the support services that help strengthen their families.

    PACE believes that EVERYDAY is a great day to Stand Up for Children and to be an advocate for California’s early care and education system!

    Interested in learning how to become more involved with being an advocate? Visit the PACE Action Center to learn more about how you can Stand Up for Children and advocate for the early care and education system throughout California and our Nation.






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  10. Happy Earth Day!!

    by PACE in Category: Advocacy,At Your Center/School,Be Green,Everyday,For The Adults,Just For Fun,PACE



    Today, April 22, 2013 is Earth Day.

    How do you plan on celebrating?


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